“We’re not on our journey to save the world but to save ourselves. But in doing that you save the world. The influence of a vital person vitalizes.” — Joseph Campbell

If you’re like many Empaths, overwhelm can be a frequent visitor.

Part of becoming an Integrated Empath – someone who is aware of their sensitivity and plans accordingly – is knowing how to take preventative measures! (Instead of damage control.)

Especially when it comes to stopping overwhelm before it takes over your energy. We all know what that feels like… the frantic energy and feeling like we are being stretched in 15 different directions at once. It’s easy to give into victim mode and shut down, but there’s a better way!

There is an art to living selfishly! Yes, selfishly.

Let me explain.

Getting overwhelmed is easy – especially when you’re sensitive.

It’s easy to let your guard down.
It’s easy to absorb energy.
It’s easy to put others before ourselves.
It’s easy to forget about self-care.

Any one of us can fall into this pattern so easily because it’s part of who we are.

It doesn’t take courage.
It doesn’t take will power.
It doesn’t take connecting to our inner truth.

The smartest thing you can do to free yourself from overwhelm is to stop getting pulled into what others think of yo or what they ned from you.

And start focusing on…

Living courageously.
Being true to who you are.
Making decisions unapologetically.

That is how you become an Integrated-Empath – knowing who you are and what you need to operate at your best.

Focusing on yourself is essential!

That’s why I say there is an art to being selfish! It doesn’t mean you don’t care about others – Remember, that’s the easy part. (It’s how you naturally operate.)

Instead, pay attention to the higher conviction that comes from your soul and tells you: “You are a treasure. You are worth it. You don’t need to DO anything but take care of YOU right now.”

So, when the tasks start stacking up in your life and you feel the overwhelm creeping in, remind yourself that being selfish (focusing on your needs first) is the first step toward turning your energy around.

When you do that, you are balancing your natural passion to serve others because on the other side of selfishness is benevolence. In other words, when you are fully replenished, you have more light to share with others. Many empaths have been doing this backwards for so long that switching it up can feel uncomfortable at first.

Sometimes it feels SO HARD to put ourselves first. And that’s OK.

Know that your happiness and health lies in your ability to discern what will replenish you or deplete you.

You deserve to be free of overwhelm, and to do that it means checking in with yourSELF from time to time.

Ask yourself questions like:

  • What do I need right now?
  • Do I really want to do that?
  • Am I tired, hungry, etc.?
  • How would I like to spend my time today?

THAT Is how you honor your sensitivity.
That is how you prevent burnout.
That is how you begin to integrate your natural desire to serve others in a way that will serve YOU, too!

So what needs to be shifted right now?
Pick the most immediate need first and start there. What will you do to make YOUR HAPPINESS a priority today?

I’d love to hear what you will start with this week!

Much Love,



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